4 Negative Emotions Moms Should Avoid

4 Negative Emotions Moms Should Avoid 

I’m a firm believer that as a mom, I set the tone for our household and I can make a huge impact on our family.  Even if I fail every single day (which I do) but make an effort to intentionally look to the Lord, read His Word, and love my family, I can make a difference despite my failures and shortcomings.

I remember reading, many years ago, about how Michael Jordan’s coach would tell his team to improve at least 1% every time they got on the court, whether it was for practice, drills or a game.  Michael Jordan ended up being one of the best players of all time and their team won many championships.

It makes me wonder if I can improve as a mom and wife just 1% every day or even every week, I can positively impact my husband and children’s lives in a huge way.  That seems totally doable to me.

I can be like Mike! (haha)

Looking to the Lord for wisdom and strength is essential so we can be a blessing to our family and make a difference.  Jesus is the key!

There are four negative emotions will tear down a family in a heartbeat and should be avoided.  Don’t ever lose heart though because we’re always going to be a work in progress until the Lord takes us home.  Everyone of us has struggles and fails but God is at work, so look to Him.

Today is a new day.

There are more of them but I took the top four from a book I’m reading by Stormie Omartian.

1. Pride

“A man’s pride will bring him low, but the humble in spirit will retain honor.”  Proverbs 29:23

Pride is selfishness – so one way to avoid pride in our lives is to live a selfless life.  Pride has built in consequences that will bring anyone down faster than anything else.  It’s important to put God first and foremost in our lives and then put other’s needs before our own.

“Love the Lord with all your heart, with all your soul and with all your mind.  This is the first and greatest commandment.  And the second is like it:  Love your neighbor as yourself.  All the law and the prophets hang on these two commandments.”  Matthew 22:37-40

What can we do will show our love toward God and others?  What does that look like when we’re loving our family with humility?  How can we get rid of pride?  Meditating and memorizing these verses will answer these questions.

 “But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self control.  Against such things there is no law.”  Galatians 5:22-23

“Love is patient, love is kind.  Love is not jealous, or boastful or proud or rude.  It does not demand it’s own way.  It is not irritable and it keeps no record of wrongs.  It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices when the truth wins out.  Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful and endures through every circumstances.”  1 Corinthians 13:4-7

P R I D E 

 “God opposes the proud but shows grace to the humble.”  James 4:6

Disgrace is cast upon the proud and God resists them.  Pride will destroy families.  Seeking God and asking Him to remove the pride in our lives, will bless our family and bring glory to God.

It’s impossible to move forward when there is pride lurking in our hearts. God gives grace and honor to the humble which is opposite of the disgrace that is cast upon the prideful.

Pray.  God will give wisdom and show us our pride.  He alone will help us take our focus off of ourselves and onto the important people in our lives.

That is not to say that we’re not to take care of ourselves and our needs too. That’s something completely different than having pride in our hearts.

2. Fear

Fear is something that has been a struggle in my life for years.  I suffered rejection and a devastating loss at a young age and the fear of loss stayed with me well into my marriage and raising children.  The fear in my life controlled me.  I had to fight hard in prayer and look to the Lord to heal me.  Acknowledging my fears, praying about them, praying that I wouldn’t be afraid,  and continually bringing these before the Lord has helped me to overcome this obstacle in my life.  When I was constantly fearful, I didn’t have the freedom to be bold or confident in my faith.  It was a distraction that kept me from strengthening my relationship with God and kept me from making a greater impact in the lives of my family. But God has set me free from this and He will help you too, if you ask Him.

 “For God has not given us a spirit of fear and timidity, but of power, love, and self discipline.”  2 Timothy 1:7

“Don’t be afraid, for I am with you.  Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God.  I will strengthen you and help you.  I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.”  Isaiah 41:10

3. Anger

The bible says not to hang around a hot-tempered person and not to be friends with someone who is easily angered.  There is a big difference between being angry and being an angry person.  An angry person will have quarreling with all of their relationships.  We can be angry and not sin but when anger takes over our lives, it can destroy our lives and the people we love.  Like I said before, praying and meditating on God’s word can help to overcome anger issues.  Abusive anger and using anger to control people is a big problem and sometimes there is a need for anger management classes or counseling help to overcome anger issues.

“An angry man stirs up strife, and a hot-tempered man abounds in transgression.”  Proverbs 29:22

Anger does not belong in the home.  It can be dealt with and healing can come.  Take heart and look to God.

4. Anxiety

“Anxiety weighs down the heart, but a kind word cheers it up.”  Proverbs 12:25

Anxiety is a weight that causes a heavy load of fear, sorrow and depression.  If anxiety burdens the heart, the truth of God’s word alone can heal.  Jesus invites us to come to Him all who are weary and burdened and He will give us rest.  He is gentle and humble in heart, His yoke is easy and His load is light.  Seek Him.  Read His word.  Read through the gospels.

“Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”  Philippians 4:6-7

Imagine never being anxious about anything!  It seems impossible with all that’s going on in the world, let alone things going on at work, school, kids, and in our homes.  But Paul advises us to turn our anxiety into prayer.  Every time worry and fear takes over, stop and pray.  Pray about everything.  Pray and don’t stop!  It works!  God heals.

Please share your thoughts and your personal experience.  God is at work and He’s doing amazing things.  I’d love to hear your story.

The Joy of the LORD is Your Strength!

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Have a blessed and wonderful day!

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