Nah ~ Just kidding ~ Read away!
In our first few years of marriage, when we had only two young children ~ we had no computer, no internet, no wifi, no cell phone etc. No one did. There was no such thing way back when. We also had no TV. Back in the day when I would load up our two toddlers and all our laundry including cloth diapers into our wagon and head off to the laundry mat at our apartment and do laundry. Life was simple. That was our normal. We lived in a two bedroom apartment and our end table was a cardboard box with a bed sheet covering it.
Not that we need to go back to a cardboard box end table and no TV but the thing I remember the most back then was time. I HAD TIME!!
God desires our time. Our family desires our time. And we have plenty of it for the important things.
We’re being overloaded with blogs, posts, opinions, tweets, emails, pictures, ads and more. Not that all of those things are bad, in and of itself. In fact, these are awesome tools for communication, outreach and convenience. We need to rely on the Holy Spirit to pace ourselves so we don’t overindulge. Too much of it can take away from our family and replace God in our lives without us even realizing it.
I have to ask myself daily what is truly important and overlook the rest as the temptation to sit idly and read or browse on my phone or computer can be considerable. I have to deliberately focus on the important stuff and let everything else go.
4 things to consider before getting lost online
Spend time with God first
Even if it’s your job to keep on top of emails, texts and notifications, set aside time to spend with God, reading the bible, praying and meditating on HIM, first thing in the morning or whenever the Lord is leading you that will bless you and Him. Set aside a specific time to do your business or ministry. Don’t let it spill into your personal time, if it doesn’t have to. I know everyone’s situation is different so there is no answer that’s right for everyone, but the Holy Spirit will guide you as to what is right for you. Seek Christ and He will show you.
Spend time with your husband
Arrange a time to spend talking with your husband when he gets home from work. Maybe just 15 minutes before dinner. When my husband gets home from work each evening, I turn off whatever I’m cooking, tell the kids to be good (HA!), and go spend 10-15 minutes talking with him. Sometimes we debrief about our day and sometimes we just sit in silence. But we spend time alone just being with each other. It’s short enough to not mess up dinner and something we’ve always done so the kids are used to it. If this is something you’re not used to doing, you may have to remind your children that you and daddy are going to take 15 minutes to talk and not to interrupt. Of course, it’s trickier if you have little ones who can’t be left alone for that long. We just brought them with us at that point.
Spend time with your children
I know this is all common sense but as easy as it is to get lost in technology, it’s worth mentioning. Take time each day to really listen to them, watch them, play with them, hug them and SMILE at them! Teens may say this is creepy but when they grow up and have children of their own, they will have learned from the best on how to love their children well.
Spend time tending to your home
Yep~ like cooking, cleaning, paying bills etc. Make this a priority and don’t neglect it. Don’t look around your house and feel guilty, just take 15 minutes right now and work as quickly as you can to do SOMETHING that will make your house look cleaner. You’d be surprised at what 15 minutes will do. Same thing with cooking and finances. If you’re frustrated with cereal for dinner or the amount of debt that you’re in, do one thing that will move you in the right direction. Plan just one meal next week. It will be one meal not eating cereal OR eating out which will kill two birds with one stone, so to speak. You’re helping your finances AND planning something besides cereal. (Just a random example. Cereal for dinner is a blessing sometimes!)
We’re all in the same boat here. I’ve learned, I’ve forgotten, I’ve gotten into good habits, then bad habits, then good, and I’m learning still. I’m sharing the things that I’ve learned and forgotten and relearned or learned new. It’s all about being intentional every single day to bless God and bless your family, even if it feels messy and imperfect. It’s still AWESOME and you’re making a difference!
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